A Ramble On My Personal Tenets—-Penned in Jomtien

A recent birthday marking my 58th year has me introspective. Vanity has me aggravated when I view myself in most photographs or the reflection in a mirror, or on a glass doorway with just the right lighting or in my sunglasses laying on my chest as I try to see well enough to pen this post as I lay poolside in the sedate atmosphere I experience when we visit Thailand.

The laid back tropical environment and my desire to hone in on my opinions and the desire to improve my writing skills has moved me to author this post which is a different style than most. I set my goal to dial in my personal tenets, my outlook, my ideology, my convictions, my morals, my principal as I ramble on to you my reader. I want to define these tenets so that I can affirm them to guide me as I manage the remainder of my life. A desire to not feel angst at aging but wonderment of life. I’ve labeled them tenets, well, because, tenets is a cool word. So instead of trying to measure up to the likes of Socrates, the grand daddy of all philosophers, I’ll just be a tenet-er 😉

As a young girl my mother was irritated by many a dinner hour conversation where my father taught me the value of arguing either side of a debate topic. He’d pick a newspaper topic, political, religious, knowledge based, existence, reality and tell me to pick a side and discuss it, mom would see it as the two of us arguing. We saw it as our way of expressing our admiration and love for one another. Soon, dad would say okay now convince me on the opposite side and our discussion/argument would ensue on the same subject yet again. The great art of debate. Grateful is how I feel about these challenges. They were the beginnings of the formation of the philosophies I’m now finally “free” enough to try to dial in. For me. My life. The legacy I leave behind. The mark I make. The factors that will determine my #makeadifference with my time here on this realm. Idle time traveling allows the luxury of deep thought. (pictured below is Buddha Mountain Pattaya, one of the sites we visited during our stay at Jomtien Beach)

Facebook is a site I enjoy. (Ya, ya I hear about the evils of social media on the regular from the man I love and the media but I find it useful and fun!) I administer my personal page, my two business pages, my blog page, the chamber page and occasionally my original hometown on the mountain page. My personal profile lists my religious preference as “positivity goodness”. My own religion, named by me, a mindset I try to spread to all around me. As recent as yesterday my traveling companion inferred his aggravation by snarky tone of voice over my positive spin on everything. I certainly see life’s glass as not half full, not half empty, simply overflowing. I always focus on the bright side and argue the positive side of every negative set in front of me. This “religious practice” tends to be an irritant at the base of most “battles” the hubster and I have. I doubt I’m changing and I doubt he is either so I anticipate these battles to exist for the remainder of my life. It’s not just him either. Other family members and friends roll their eyes at me as I defend someone or something that is less than their expectations. I can justify anything, turn it around and around in the palm of my hand and find a shiny little part to appreciate. In some regards that criticism about something I pride myself on can hurt my feelings or make me angry, but alas it’s innate, I simply can’t help myself. As much as I might try to stifle it, my optimism is a strong part of my personality and one that serves me well. I don’t have much, if any, tolerance for pessimism and the realism of someone like my my husband can infuriate me while I am envious of it at the same time as it seems a much more pragmatic way to live life. I do get reinforcement as well from many about my “religious practice.” “We miss your smile”, “you just light up this place”, “I know better than to complain to you”, these are the words that feed my soul. Thanks to all of you who take note and feel I made a difference for you, for you is why I choose this practice. #makeadifference

Gratitude plays a major role in the Positivity Goodness faith. If you’ve read my blog for any length of time or follow me on social media you know that books by Rhonda Byrne and the theories behind Quantum Physics and the law of attraction are key to my optimism. As my dear sister reads this she will no doubt snicker and shake her head. In family discussions she’s commented that I always think I can imagine things to appear or disappear